“It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” The end of 2020 means the holidays are upon us — a time of family, food, gift-giving, and spiritual renewal. Many reflect on the year they have had and look forward to the new year ahead. For some, especially those in recovery, the holidays can bring about anxiety and potential triggers that could compromise sobriety. But steps can be taken to make sure that these next few months are not negative to recovery, but enjoyable. Here are a few things those in recovery can do to successfully navigate the holidays.
Plan Ahead
Preparing for the holiday season is probably one of the most important things for someone in recovery. Burying the stress of the season and not processing what you may be feeling is like holding a ball underwater. It is not an easy feat and never surfaces the way we think it will. Being prepared mentally and emotionally can help in overcoming potential stressors and triggers. Schedule extra sessions with a therapist/sponsor or meetings with a small group to assist in processing through the upcoming weeks, which may be spent with family and friends or in places that bring memories of the past to the surface. Be vulnerable in sharing fears and feelings. Also, develop a plan for what will be done should you find yourself in a compromising situation; knowing your decision ahead of time will prevent you from making a wrong choice in the moment.
It Takes a Village
Leverage your recovery community! Find a person or group you trust and can use as an accountability partner during the holidays. This can be someone you can call, text, or FaceTime if a triggering or uncomfortable situation arises. You can even ask them to attend an event with you. You do not have to go through this season by yourself.
It’s OK to Say NO
Remember — your recovery comes first! Don’t say yes to a situation you know may put you in an uncomfortable or dangerous position. It is OK to say no to an event you know will be serving alcohol or to someone trying to serve you alcohol. It is OK to say no to family gatherings you may not be ready for. Your obligation is to your recovery and sobriety, not holiday events or family gatherings.
COVID-19
COVID-19 is a new stressor all on its own, but if you take the steps recommended by the CDC, you and those around you can still enjoy the holidays and stay safe. Wear your mask when at gatherings with other people. If you do not have your mask or you are meeting outside, make sure to stay socially distant at six feet. Wash your hands and/or carry hand sanitizer with you. Remember, fears around COVID-19 are important to vocalize and communicate with your sponsor, small group, and family members.
Badge of Honor
Recovery is one of the most courageous things a person can do. To surrender their perceived lifeline (alcohol, drugs) and face their addiction is terrifying and can be mentally, physically, and emotionally painful. It is easy to feel embarrassed about your past addiction, especially when surrounded by close family and friends. Recovery is something to be proud of, not ashamed of. Don’t forget the sacrifices you have made, the fires you have walked through, and the work you have put in to get to where you are today.
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“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
— A.A. Milne
